Men who've been walked out on by their girlfriends usually don't try to get them back if they've started seeing another man. Don't let her new relationship discourage you - if you want her back, go ahead and get her back! You've got to use some cunning to persuade her to return to you, but it can be done. Just because she's seeing another man doesn't mean you can't try to get her back.
Save her from a rebound relationship
If your ex is with another man just a short time after her breakup with you, it's appropriate to consider and treat it as a rebound relationship, even if she chose him before the breakup. She's using him not as a really new love, but to supplant you, to try to get over her feelings for you, in the rebound relationship. Discouraging as it is, you cannot take direct action now - you've got to be patient and let her return to you . . . with a little subtle help from you, of course!
Now isn't the time for stupid moves
Even though you're interested in her emotional stability now, don't forget that you're dealing with the hurt and anguish of breaking up yourself, and are likely to act without thinking. Here's a trick you can use - if you decide to do something, write down what you want to do, and then don't do anything until you've had a good night's sleep - and then read the plan again the next day. You'll be glad you waited, because most likely the plan was foolish. Above all, don't judge her for hooking up with someone else so quickly - no matter how big a mistake it is, she won't be able to hear it from you. Leave her alone - shows respect anyway. And when she starts to realize her mistake, there won't be any question that she arrived at that conclusion herself because you weren't interfering with her. When a woman hasn't gotten over a relationship before starting another, inevitably she'll constantly compare her new lover with the old one, and it's usually the new one who loses out.
On the one hand . . . and yet, on the other hand . . .
Because she hasn't really gotten over you, she'll be looking in him for those qualities she loved in you . Can you imagine how he must feel, and what he must be saying to her? How long do you believe that relationship can last? He'll become more and more uncomfortable as he realizes he's under the microscope. Now's an ideal time for him to do something foolish and drive her back to you!
Never initiate contact with her
She's having a hard time in her new relationship - she feels bad about leaving you, she's comparing her new guy with you and finding him lacking, and so she's confused. She's used to leaning on you when she's confused - but now you can't be there for her because that'll just help her work out the difficulties in the new relationship. If you want her back, you can't be there to help her strengthen a relationship with someone else! So until it's apparent she's ready to come home, stay away from her!
Winning back a girlfriend who immediately takes up with another man isn't really that hard if you understand what's going on behind the scenes. The most difficult part is to remain patient and don't try to make anything happen yourself. Using the pointers discussed here, make your plan and follow it carefully, just like the many men who've won their girlfriends back again. You may need to motivate and inspire yourself, because the only thing easy about this is reading this article. Putting it into action requires patience and a great deal of self-discipline, at a time when your own emotions are going to be churning. Seeing her with the new man will help to motivate and inspire you. Think of it this way - this is just a short separation until you two get back together again.
If you found this helpful, you might also like my article on how to win back your girlfriend, or my other get back your girlfriend blog.
Save her from a rebound relationship
If your ex is with another man just a short time after her breakup with you, it's appropriate to consider and treat it as a rebound relationship, even if she chose him before the breakup. She's using him not as a really new love, but to supplant you, to try to get over her feelings for you, in the rebound relationship. Discouraging as it is, you cannot take direct action now - you've got to be patient and let her return to you . . . with a little subtle help from you, of course!
Now isn't the time for stupid moves
Even though you're interested in her emotional stability now, don't forget that you're dealing with the hurt and anguish of breaking up yourself, and are likely to act without thinking. Here's a trick you can use - if you decide to do something, write down what you want to do, and then don't do anything until you've had a good night's sleep - and then read the plan again the next day. You'll be glad you waited, because most likely the plan was foolish. Above all, don't judge her for hooking up with someone else so quickly - no matter how big a mistake it is, she won't be able to hear it from you. Leave her alone - shows respect anyway. And when she starts to realize her mistake, there won't be any question that she arrived at that conclusion herself because you weren't interfering with her. When a woman hasn't gotten over a relationship before starting another, inevitably she'll constantly compare her new lover with the old one, and it's usually the new one who loses out.
On the one hand . . . and yet, on the other hand . . .
Because she hasn't really gotten over you, she'll be looking in him for those qualities she loved in you . Can you imagine how he must feel, and what he must be saying to her? How long do you believe that relationship can last? He'll become more and more uncomfortable as he realizes he's under the microscope. Now's an ideal time for him to do something foolish and drive her back to you!
Never initiate contact with her
She's having a hard time in her new relationship - she feels bad about leaving you, she's comparing her new guy with you and finding him lacking, and so she's confused. She's used to leaning on you when she's confused - but now you can't be there for her because that'll just help her work out the difficulties in the new relationship. If you want her back, you can't be there to help her strengthen a relationship with someone else! So until it's apparent she's ready to come home, stay away from her!
Winning back a girlfriend who immediately takes up with another man isn't really that hard if you understand what's going on behind the scenes. The most difficult part is to remain patient and don't try to make anything happen yourself. Using the pointers discussed here, make your plan and follow it carefully, just like the many men who've won their girlfriends back again. You may need to motivate and inspire yourself, because the only thing easy about this is reading this article. Putting it into action requires patience and a great deal of self-discipline, at a time when your own emotions are going to be churning. Seeing her with the new man will help to motivate and inspire you. Think of it this way - this is just a short separation until you two get back together again.
If you found this helpful, you might also like my article on how to win back your girlfriend, or my other get back your girlfriend blog.
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